By Sheldon Helms
Great work done by my NorCal skeptic friends. If you believe in psychics, or if you believe they’re fake but that they’re harmless, please give this a read.
"…I am a psychology professor; I have seen firsthand, the effects of disrupting the grieving process for people, and they are horrible. I often tell my students that the worst harm that psychic charlatans can do is to prevent people from doing their Grief Homework. There is a process that we need to go through when we suffer a loss. It involves stages of varying degrees of strong emotions, and over time, can settle into states that range from full acceptance, a sort of standoff between them and their emotions, all the way to complete inability to function. The last thing someone in grief needs is someone derailing this process with fantasies of the deceased person communicating with them through a channeler…and for a price." - Sheldon Helms
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I see this bizarre thing where some people treat social justice like Rock, Paper, Scissors. “Being a woman trumps being a white gay male!”
People who do that are usually social justice warriors, not rational people who promote social justice.
I know there’s sometimes bad things that come with labels, but finding out that there is an actual word to describe what you’ve been going through and who you are can be empowering. It has been for me, as far as feeling better about my own identity and being able to better explain myself to others.
As for this doodle, I don’t have Asperger’s, but finding out that a close friend was on the autism spectrum helped me understand him much better. I wish I had known sooner. I only found out after his death. I really think it would have strengthened our friendship if I had known what he was going through and why he did some of the things he did, but I also understand the desire to keep that private.
I wish I could take back some of the harsh things I said to him. I thought he really needed to just get it together, when really it was his ASD that was doing it. That’s not to say that people on the autism spectrum are a mess - not at all - but there was specific behavior I told him I was frustrated with that can be explained now that I know what he was going through. But I had no idea he was going through that, let alone that it existed. I really wish I could talk to him one last time and apologize, but I have learned from this and try to think about this possibility in my interactions with other friends.
Anyway, I think that labels can not only be empowering for one’s self but also be great for their interpersonal relationships, as long as they are dealing with empathetic people. But people don’t have to share the label with others if they don’t want to and can choose to only tell a select few.